When you’re in your twenties, you’re at that stage that life can easily make or break you. It’s that time in your life where you are most vulnerable to life’s challenges because it somehow always seems like wherever you look, people are making hard strides and you’re trolling behind.
Part of adulthood is understanding the importance of finding peace with your current situation. There are things that each one of us will experience, are experiencing or have experienced in their twenties.
My hope is that these 12 life lessons I am sharing will provide myself and my fellow 20 somethings some guidance and truth, and that these truths will remain at the forefront of our minds as we navigate these next few years and beyond. You are never alone in these “feelings” streets.
- Social media will sometimes leave you like you are the biggest failure and convince you that your life is boring and you are missing out on the finer things in life. Fact, Don’t be fooled by people’s lives on social media. People go on social media to post their successes and most often than not, forget to share they’re not so glossy lives. If you are on social media often, it almost seems like you’re lagging too far behind compared to your peers. Do not fall for this trap and KEEP DOING YOU.
- Your 20s will produce more failures than you’ll choose to remember. The key is when you fail, don’t begin calling yourself a failure. Great success comes from failing and managing pick yourself up.
- In Uni, you will make amazing friends and swear to never lose contact. Yeah, well, you might lose contact. Changes in your life such as moving to a different country, chasing different goals, getting married and having kids will change that 45min conversation with your close friends and it will become a little more complicated than it used to be over late night snacks.
- If you grew up going to church, at some point in your 20s you’ll probably stop going to church. If you grew up with faith as a central part of your life, at some point in your 20s faith might move to the outskirts of your daily life. Basically, your 20s are a process of making faith your own apart from your parents and childhood. Sometimes that means staggering away so you know what you’re coming back to.
- I read a statement somewhere that stated Obsessive Comparison Disorder (OCD) is the smallpox of our generation and I couldn’t agree more. We get so consumed with comparing our lives with that of our peer/s and in many instances the outcomes is unbalanced and unhealthy. Say NO! to Obsessive Comparison Disorder. Do not fall for the trap, basically everyone is sugar coating their lives and often are far from living that fairytale life they portray.
- In our twenties, we are mostly never satisfied. Somehow ambitions and reality do not meet and often leaves us feeling like failures. I like to believe that each one of us are where they need to be right now. It might not seem like so, but I am confident in 5 years from now, our life’s events will start to make sense. Figure out what makes you feel good mentally, emotionally, physically and sexually. Do more of that (safely and responsibly).
- Marriage! *Takes Deep breath*. This is the point in time in our lives where our social media walls are flooded with pictures of seemingly happy couples who have found their soulmate and are going to live happily ever after. Trust me, nothing wrong with that, in fact, congratulations to all those who have crossed that bridge. But for some of us who have not arrived at that life changing crossroad, do not despair.
- The grass is always greener on the other side, until you get there and realize it’s because of all the manure. The grass that is the best is the grass you are working with. The deciding factor to how green it is and how happy it makes you, is you.
- The relationship you have with your parents will shift as you learn how to have an adult relationship with them. Gone will be the days where you hide who you truly are. In most cases, the role will evolve and you become more than just their child.
- At one point in your twenties you will stop needing validation on what you think, believe, or do. Once this moment strikes, – you will feel unstoppable. You will realize you don’t need to explain yourself and most importantly that you do not have to apologize for who you are or what you believe in.
- This one is the hardest for me to process but Death is inevitable. In your twenties death, will become something that you will experience. It could be death of a friend, a family member, relative or a colleague or classmate.
- And Finally, You still don’t know everything!
Do you have any more experiences to add to this list? Leave your comment down below.