Being in your twenties these days can be quite overwhelming and stressful. Most of us are generally broke, we worry about either getting a job or if you have one, getting fired. Its that stage in your life where you are just moving on a roller coaster of emotions. We question our relationships and wonder if we will ever get to reach those dreams we’ve always had.
Anyone who knows me, knows I’m a huge advocate for continuous learning and personal development. Reading has never really been part of my DNA but in the twenty-something years I’ve lived, I do manage every-now-and-then to pick up a book that has an immediate and lasting impact on my life. Reading the right books can sometimes help in getting the answers to those questions constantly on your mind.
Below are the self development books for every twenty something I can definitely recommend.
- 7 Habits of highly effective people (Stephen Covey)I first read this book in highschool as it was part of a compulsory lifesckills class we had to take. At that time I barely understood myself and certainly did not understand the book. The second time I read 7 habits was during the last year of my bachelor study and I have to say I fell in love. Covey doesn’t promise a simple, quick fix for creating a better life. In fact, mastering the seven habits he outlines could take a lifetime. But as with many personal-development efforts, it’s what you learn as you work toward becoming a truly effective person that matters.
- How to win friends and influence people (Dale Carnegie)Just to make things clear, this book isn’t meant for loners or people who don’t have any friends. I read this book last year and I could not be happier that it found its way to me. First published in 1937, How to Win Friends and Influence People was an overnight success with staying power. Today, this book is regarded as one of the all-time best for its lessons on dealing with people.
From the title, one might think it seems a bit manipulative but in reality, this book teaches you to be genuine. The word “genuine” appears repeatedly throughout the book. Only with authenticity and honesty will Carnegie’s methods work consistently. This book is packed with anecdotes from historical leaders and lessons learned or taught by some of history’s greatest businessmen, making the read as interesting as it is enlightening.
- Thinking fast and slow (Daniel Kahneman)This book is definitely not for the faint hearted. Kahneman’s book demands that you slow down (and, at times, stop altogether) and consider what is actually being discussed. This book discusses a vast body of knowledge about how we make choices in general, and why our choices often seem to fly in the face of what would make the most sense.
Kahneman explains how two “systems” in the mind make decisions. “System 1” is the fast, intuitive aspect of the mind. “System 2” is the slower, logical and reasoning part of the mind. We generally make decisions quickly with the System 1, often because System 2 is simply–lazy. It takes effort to think things out rationally, and our rational minds are not always up to the job.
- Quiet. The power of introverts in a world that cant stop talking (Susan Cain)Quiet is a must read for those who are introverted. I was drawn to this book because as much as most people who know me might beg to differ, I actually see myself as an introvert within. I am an introvert with extroverted qualities (if that makes sense). This book puts into words what many introverts know intuitively; strength does not have to be loud, in your face, or aggressive. Strength and conviction can present themselves quietly without sacrificing effectiveness. Through impressive research, Ms. Cain clearly demonstrates the importance of both personality types and the value of introversion.
- Nice girls don’t get the corner office (Lois P. Frankel)This is my current read and I would love to recommend to all the women starting up their career. The book is highlights the unconscious mistakes women often make that sabotage their career. What I love most is that she tackles the mostly-ignored topic of women dragging other women down. I’ve long believed (based on short experience and advise passed down) that one of the biggest obstacles to women in the workplace is other women.
Recognizing these mistakes will help you define your brand, acknowledge the value of your brand and develop a plan for marketing your brand.
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